• Building Resilience

    Resilience is a much-admired virtue. However, the acquiring of resilience requires that an individual go through a trying situation, difficult circumstances, in some cases, even tragedy, to “strengthen the muscles in our backbone”, as Sheryl Sandberg writes so eloquently in ‘Option B’. My moment of difficulty, my precursor to acquiring resilience, came 12 years ago. One crisp, sunny morning, my son Vir, my sweet, shy little boy, received a diagnosis of autism. With that, my world was shattered. I spent days crying my eyes raw and nights agonizing over Vir’s future, conjuring up worst-case scenarios in my head. But unknown to me, during those wretched days and sleepless nights, the…

  • Ever wondered why you live your life in a certain way and not another?

    Ever wondered why you live your life in a certain way and not another? Why you follow certain traditions and beliefs?Why you have a specific attitude or mindset about everything from how to bring up children to what to serve for lunch on Sundays? To find out what shapes our beliefs, read on… Growing up, I had very fixed ideas about most things. My life, my thoughts and my beliefs were neatly slotted into two precise compartments: black and white. In my mind, 25 was a good age to get married, women who smoked were ‘bad’, and Sunday lunch had to have two vegetables, one dal, rice, rotis and a…

  • Acts of Care

    When I worked at Ummeed Child Development Center, where we worked with children with disabilities and their families, all staff got together during one quarterly meeting to ideate on, design and develop a document called ‘Acts of Care’. These are simple things, the small acts of kindness, that make a difference to the lives of the children and families we work with, and our lives as well. Included in this list were giving the families a reminder call a day before the scheduled appointment, asking them if they would like a glass of water as they came in from the hot sun, or even checking if a colleague wanted to…